If I asked most of our Kenyan ladies how long it should take before a lady engages in sexual intercourse with her newly found boy friend or fiancé, I will hear so many strange stories. Some of you ladies would prefer to take at least a month, a year, or even as in this abnormal case, where a lady tells her boyfriend that they should never have it until they get married. Girl! Up your game, who told you in the first place that he will marry you? Enjoy life in the present; never see tomorrow when you don’t even know what the next second is going to bring you.
Ladies please don’t lie to yourself, it’s never about how long you make a guy wait before you sleep with him, that makes the man love you or follow you. It takes more than just that. Before I go on, let me just elaborate on something here, sex is never an issue in Nairobi as well as other developing towns in Kenya and abroad. If I may zero down to Kenya I know a few places in Nairobi where men can get cheap sex and of any quality, in Hurlingham we have Ethiopians offering sex anywhere between Ksh 400 to Ksh 1000, at Parklands area, its only Ksh 700, Karumaindos is as cheap as Ksh 50 just to mention but a few. What am I trying to tell our beautiful ladies? Am trying to instill in you never to use sex as weapon to make a man chase you because there are plenty of alternatives that men can run to, as a remedy to your so called ‘hard to get’ game.
Coming back to my point, I was saying you should never pretend because for sure I know most ladies can get laid on even the first day of meeting though I fully back and congratulate the few who can comfortably do that. Most ladies pretend just to make a man perceive her as being hard to get. But whenever a lady does that she must be sure of her tactics if she really wants that very man she is pretending to that she is hard to get, the chances are that she may lose that man to other swift ladies who never miss any opportunity given half a chance.
I have always warned ladies that if you feel a man for real and you really feel it, go for him, avoid the many pretences ladies use, if he asks you for a sleep over, go there, relax and get to learn him that time and if you feel he is really making you feel like you want to, please indulge and enjoy any of the romantic surprises that may come along. It’s pretty unfair to pretend you don’t want what you really want just because it’s your first visit. Please silence that voice at the back of your mind that tells you, getting laid on the first day of meeting a person is a curse because that is a culture that existed many decades before the millennium bug.
I think ladies you must know or have heard of stories where a lady meets her husband in a pub, slept together the same day and stayed in relationship for like three or four years before finally getting married. If you have never heard these stories then you are so nice you don’t gossip even a little like the rest of us.
It is high time we come out of these limiting factors that make us live without lovers and blame it on the universe. Men are there and ladies are there too so let’s enjoy and utilize anything that will give birth to your happiness.
And please ladies, never be shy or ashamed that a man will think or say you are loose regarding what I am urging you to be. Let it be clear that no man, if there is, it’s rare, no man at that time would take you for being cheap, if that’s the case, why is he begging you to sleep
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